Dilemma

How do you tell when it’s time to settle down and partner up? When is the official time that you could ask the person you’re seeing/doing/dating if it’s time for The Talk?

More often that not, I noticed that a lot of people in the chub and chaser community wanting to be boyfriendly after the first date/sex session. Is that the normal practice these days? I am from the school of thought that you need to know your chaser/chub inside out before committing to a relationship. Guess I am in the minority here.

I am stumped. If I wait long enough, people would assume I am not interested. I don’t want to rush into something that would only result in a breakup a few days later.

I would like to get to know my partner well enough for me to at least know what he would like to eat or what he was thinking in any given situation.

Now I know it’s too much to ask and that it’s unrealistic to be wanting that. But I am not one to settle for cuteness or a hot bod or just for the sake of not being alone. So I guess the order of the day for me is to keep on searching for the one who would want to get to me better and appreciate me for who I am and not try to change me.

Stop laughing! It could happen. In the meantime, I’ll be home alone with my cats, watching America’s Next Top Model reruns and hating that bitch Jade.

P/S - I am a newbie posting here. Forgive the rambling and the not perfect lingo.

PGL THE MUSICAL

Today I went to watch the musical with my friend and his family. All I can say is that the musical was fabulous and the cast deserved the standing ovation they got at the end of the show. A very good Malaysian musical.

Afdlin Shauki was there. I have never seen him in real life before and this was the first time. Wow he is a chub to behold. He was very patient especially as so many wanted pictures with him. I have a pic together with my friends wife and daughter with him.

I think he is absolutely "The Bomb!"

The Naked and Nudity

Someone came to me one fine day and asked. Mr. GemuKChub, can you please remove my naked XXX pic in mychub.

The first thing that came to my mind was.. "You have a naked pic ?"
"Where is the pic ?"
"I don't know.. someone told me that they saw my naked pic in mychub"
*Sigh* then I would answer with a resounding "NO!"

First of all I am not accountable to what you put online. MyChub is HUGE. There are so many facilities in which mychub exist, whether it is in MyChub.ORG, Yahoo, Friendster, Myspace, Youtube and many other online services which mychub have presence. Do I have time to rummage through it all to help you??

Secondly, without any further proof and you don't even tell me who told you this info, I am very reluctant to help you.

MORAL OF THIS STORY :
Due to our own carelessness and/or even stupidity, we neglected the fact that the Internet is dynamic and always changing. In our eagerness to hook-up, we forget that what can be the present friends or lovers can turn to foe in the future.

Just by merely asking.. "Please don't pass this picture around!"
Does not guarantee that it will not be passed around in the WWW.

Once you send your naked pic via e-mail, it can be copied, manipulated, distributed and even printed.

I have to break the false security bubble that e-mail is personal. It never was. A more scary senario is that it will be kept for many years and it will resurface when you least suspected.

So a general rule of thumb would be:-
1) NEVER GIVE OUT YOUR NAKED PIC

2) Never trust anyone.. even how smooth they talk.

3) Definately never give it to someone who begs you for it. It show how desperate they are to get it and then flaunt it.

4) Giving your naked pic to some foreigners with the pretense that they are not malaysian is just plain stupid. Coz in the end, it will come back to malaysian soil.

5) NEVER GIVE YOUR NAKED PIC. PERIOD!

AL-FATEHAH

I was saddened to read in todays local papers of the death of a friend of mine. I had the opportunity to know him a long time ago in Singapore and this was before his move to KL. It shoched me to read that he was found stabbed by his nephew at his condo in Jalan Ipoh, Sentul. His body was decomposing.

Mukhriez or commonly called Ron, may your soul rest in peace! Amin.

I do know that there are some in mychub who know him as we have chatted about this before.

SENTRAL

I just want to say I found the place hot! I went there after so long of wanting to go there last night. Well as in KL nust go as never been tere. Was disappointed as there were no chubs around on my entry at about 9.20 pm. But it takes time to poke around and there in the steam room was the going on's. Am sure there were some chubs there and you only feel and grope which was interesting. Just will say that this place is happening.

I will go back tere again. Will make it a point to visit. I prefer this place to Mirage.

Pandang-pandang Jeling jeling

I went for my business trip to Pahang, Terengganu and Kelantan recently. 5 wonderful and tired days. It was fun and successful trip. One of my encounters as I went into an apparel shop, I notice a chub was browsing the products on display and then inquiring the promoters

"saiz 42 tak ada ke utk jeans ni"
"tak ada bang, saiz paling besar cuma 38 je bang"
"apa lah kau org ni, tak reti nak buat seluar yg besar utk org macam aku ni"
"Abang bukan target consumer kami, kami tak carry saiz abang" said the promoter

He seems unhappy with her reply.

I just grin and smile to the chubs and after introducing myself I apologeticly told him that he could have the bigger sizes in KL. He could go to Pertama Complex or Campbel Complex to find his pair of jeans. I told him that he should visit KL always as KL has plenty items to offer for his size. I told him that he should not have a bad feeling of himself as he should accept what he is. he smile and then offer me a drink at a near by cafe.

At the cafe, he (introduced himself as Harris) said that he is looking for his size of jeans for 6 mths but went unsuccessful. I gave him advise based on my experience. After a while he choosed a different topic, he said that at his size, he could not have a girlfriend. I told him not to be sad. Harris is 34 yrs of age. waist 42 and has a dark complexion. To me he is cute. He is polite. We did chat for at least 1 hour and finnaly I have to continue my journey and we parted ways after exchanging our mobile.

Moral of story

A chub should not be despair of his shortcomings. Chubs has his specialities too. Caring, sexy and polite.

Makan - our best activity

To all the KL chubs,

U guys need to visit this restaurant to makan. Its in Damansara Uptown. The name of the restaurant

Village Park restaurant
No 5 Jalan SS21/37
Damansara Utama
47400 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03-7710 7860
(next to Bank Rakyat and Joo Ngan bicycle shop)

I am not able to attached pic here as I do not know how(still learning bro). However the owners are husband wife, Mr. Steven Goh and Aishah (convert muslim) very friendly. Steven loves to touch my dear belly...he loves the belly and my wish is that he could have the same belly too.

Now the food that he serves....

You should try the Roti daging, fullamak sedap than you can have the nasi lemak (smells harum daun pandan and it is kukus) the sambal taste perfect without plenty belacan. Other speciallity is his mee kari, laksa penang and mee rebus. Go try...... you never feel dissapointed.

Drinks

There's air kedondong, orange juice and others drink too. His coffee is a special blend coffee. His tea are special blend too.

Try the roti bakar with telur 1/2 masak.....heaven.

For all that..the price is reasonable. Go guys, go eat.

It opens daily from 7 am to 8pm only. Enjoy.

The inner chub

Thanks to the geng for given me the opportunity to contribute. Its a pleasure knowing you all especially Gemukchub. I have been reading the blog thru Relekjek. To Zid, be strong bro.U can go thru it and we will help you.(prayers to your mum too)

I want to share my feeling on overcoming difficult situation in life. There are times that we deal with failure, accident, death, losing someone, frustration and all negative aspect of life. How to deal with it?

Well chubs

I strongly believe that we chubs can deal with it. Why? How come? Didn't you realized that we are chubs and we feel that we are different from all those not so chubs. So we came our emotions, we conquered our pride and we accept what we are. We cried, yes we did, we release the tears. We shout, we release the anger but the most important aspect is that we must remain rational. The chub friends must support each other if a member in difficult situation.

Pepatah melayu ada mengatakan "Teman Ketawa Ramai, Teman Menangis tiada". I am proving that the pepatah is incorrect. There are friends who are willing to menangis bersama. That the challenge for each one of us to find and stay as friends. In malay, seorng teman bukan kawan. Teman lebih dalam pengertiannya.

Smile chubs. Ciao for now.